23 We’re in Like, Not in Love
It’s harsh but true. In fact, it’s probably the most common reason we bolt. Just because a guy likes you a lot isn’t a guarantee that it will evolve into love. And we’re surprisingly intuitive when it comes to figuring out a girl’s potential on this front. “I stayed with one woman for two years because the sex was great and she never pushed the issue, but I knew the minute I met her that she wasn’t The One,” says David, 30.
So why do we invest any time in a relationship that we know will ultimately end? Because we’re able to live in the moment for a while and chalk it up to a good experience. But once you show that you’re way more into us than we are into you, we’ll dump you out of guilt. “I dated this girl for about a year, but as soon as she started using the L word, I had to end it,” recalls Jay, 29. “It was hard. I cared about her and didn’t want to hurt her. But I knew that if I stuck around, she’d have been happier at first but miserable later on. After all, she deserved to be with someone who loved her as much as she loved me.”